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Among the behaviors engaged in by sex addicts are:

  • repeated use of pornography
  • virtual sex through on-line chat rooms, instant messaging, etc.
  • phone sex
  • paying for sex through escort services and other forms of prostitution
  • cruising for sex
  • sex with anonymous partners
  • affairs
  • sex with colleagues, clients, family friends, family members
  • compulsive masturbation
  • serial monogamy – a history of short-lived, romantic, sexual relationships
  • sexual fetishes

Of course, most sex addicts do not engage in all of these behaviors.  Some engage in only one form of destructive sexual behavior.  What is important in determining if one is addicted to sex is whether the behavior is compulsive – that is, is the person able to stop the behavior on his/her own for an extended period of time without going through intense struggle, without obsessing about the behavior,  and without replacing the behavior with another addictive-type behavior?


Sex Addiction Screening Test

By Patrick Carnes

Feel free use the assessment as a guide to help you identify if there is an issue with your sexual behavior.


1. Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent?

2. Did your parents have trouble with sexual behavior?

3. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?

4 .Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal?

5 . Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?

6. Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you and your family?

7. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like?

8. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?

9. Are any of your sexual activities against the law?

10. Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual activity and failed?

11. Do you hide some of your sexual behaviors from others?

12. Have you attempted to stop some parts of your sexual activity?

13. Have you felt degraded by your sexual behaviors?

14. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?

15. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?

16. Have important parts of your life (such as job, family, friends, leisure activities) been neglected because you were spending too much time on sex?

17. Do you ever think your sexual desire is stronger than you are?

18. Is sex almost all you think about?

19. Has sex (or romantic fantasies) been a way for you to escape your problems?

20. Has sex become the most important thing in your life?

Can we contact you to schedule a counseling session?