There may come a time in when you can no longer minimize your destructive sexual behavior. You cannot rationalize or deny it and you can no longer blame someone else. You realize that, not only must you “own” your destructive behavior, you also need to do something about it. This usually comes in the form of “bottom” or what is known in Alcoholics Anonymous and other recovery programs as a “Moment of Clarity.” A“bottom” or crisis usually shakes us out of distorted thinking. The upside of the crisis isthat you get into focus what you must do in order to get better.
Once you have experienced your “Aha” moment about your addictive sexual behavior, all your excuses fall away, and you are at the first step in recovery – recognizing that you are a sex addict, not merely someone who loves sex. You have a problem, and now you must go about finding the solution. If you’re hurting yourself and others with your sexual behaviors, if you’re putting yourself and other at risk by participating in and then lying about this habit, then you most likely have an addictive disorder. You may be embarrassed by or ashamed of your actions, and these feelings may have stopped you from seeking help in the past. It doesn’t have to be this way – watching your relationships with family, friends, career being destroyed by actions you don’t seem to be able to stop. You CAN stop. And New York Pathways can help you to achieve your goals.
If you think that you have a problem and are out of control, then it’s time to pick up the phone and call us at Pathways (or anywhere else for that matter). One of our highly-qualified staff members will be available to listen to your situation and then talk to you about your next steps and the options available to you. We will explain what we do here at Pathways, how our methods can help you to live your life free of your addiction, and of course answer any questions. Then we’ll perform an initial screening to ensure that Pathways is the right place for you as far as treatment options, financial obligations, availability, etc.
After the initial screening is complete, and you and we have determined that Pathways is your best option for recovery, we will meet with you in person to conduct an in-depth interview, which takes about an hour. This interview will help us to determine your specific disorder, and how/why it developed in you. We hope to gain an understanding of the current situation. In other words what, specifically, has led you to seek help? What precipitated this situation/crisis? What other persons, places, events are involved or impacted? We will review your work, family, and living situation, and also discuss your sexual history so that you and we can understand patterns of your behavior and origin of your addiction. We will discuss your family of origin and trauma history, if any. From this information, we hope you gain insight if behaviors are influenced from trauma repetition.
Armed with this vital information, we will then be able to design a unique course of therapy that is focused on your specific needs and start you on your recovery journey. Among our range of services, we will choose the ones that best suit your individual situation. You will have your personalized treatment plan, which usually consists of individual therapy, group therapy, and outside support groups. You may need family therapy as well. However, you will be well on your way to lifetime change one day at a time.